Tim - I think she knew he was a rascal and had the potential for bad behavior. But we always want to believe the best about our kids, and certainly not admit it to outsiders.
The extended visit to Texas was always a mystery. I think it was a disagreement or conflict with his father that led to that visit.  The mother probably thought some time away would de-escalate the conflict. But others on here may know more about it than me. But regardless of the details, I don't think we will find any answers in that incident. Many young men have conflicts with their fathers and spend a few months away from home. They don't go on to be family anihilators.
Similar to his theft of drugs from  the clinic. Lots of people get sticky fingers at work.
And his serial affairs. A sign of his character for sure, but not predictive of a future murderer.
Although in hindsight,  he seems to have always been amoral, or lacking morality.
As Joe put it on 60 minutes, beyond  morality.
But he made efforts to conceal that. He sucked up to high status people.
And he spoke glibly, always drawing attention to himself.
Other kids at school described him as popular, but it is likely that none of them really knew him. They just knew the image he had portrayed.

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